Thursday, September 29, 2011

Hakuna Matata

Where you're at and what you're doing at this very moment is the culmination of all the decisions you've made in your life. Whether it was a minor one like leaving for work 5 minutes later or a major one like moving to another location, all these decisions have ultimately led you where you are at this point in time.

So what are you doing right now?
Are you where you thought you'd be 5 years ago?
Are you happy?

I'm a bit of a hedonist, and I ask myself questions like these daily because well shit, my happiness is very important to me, though not at the expense of others (hopefully.) A lot of people don't give themselves enough credit and think they have less control over their lives than they really do. There's always something holding them back, a job, an excuse, or maybe the "timing" isn't right. I think what most people are afraid of is uncertainty and fear of the unknown. We crave knowing what's going to happen, obtaining closure, and so on. When we don't know the outcome of something, it eats at us or it inhibits action.

I just want to say that everything is going to be okay. Do you have a roof over your head? Do you have food on your plate? Do you have the love of family and friends? If you're reading this, then I believe you do...because you're on the internet and out of all the websites you could be on you're on this one.

Take that leap of faith.

That thing you've always wanted to do but haven't gotten around to yet? Do it.

You'll be okay.

You'll learn something new about yourself.

Time is unforgiving, and it goes on and on and on...while life is temporary, so you have to make the most of it.

I remind myself of this whenever I have a rough day at work and start getting stressed out. It's just a job. It's just a client. It's not my life. This job allows me to pay my bills and fund my life, but it doesn't own me. There are other jobs if the one I have doesn't work out, but there are no other lives if the one I'm living doesn't work out.

A lot of people seem to plan their present lives for their future lives (retirement, buying a house, etc.,) but when that future life comes they start planning for another future they never end up living in the present and enjoying the simple things. Or they forgot how fragile life is; where you can die because someone decided to drive drunk or you can randomly slip and break your neck. There's no guarantee you'll ever reach retirement age (whenever that may be,) so enjoy your life while you can...but within moderation of course. Don't go snorting some crack or gambling your finances away...or something else that's invariably stupid.

People ask me how I could move halfway across the world, away from friends and family, and the explanation I usually give them is one I've stated before; that I just had a feeling that I really wanted to live here...but it's also because I know my parents would support me because they want the best for me, which is my happiness. If they didn't, then that's just selfish of them right?

So far...

I've been here a year, and my experiences abroad have led me to a few conclusions:

1. People around the world are all the same. There may be some cultural differences, but at our core we all share the same emotions, wants and desires. The love of family and friends, laughter, and to make something of ourselves.

2. You can't run away from your problems, you have to confront them head on. If you're going to run, you need to run to something instead of running away from something, as things will always catch up to you. If you have personal issues and think you can start with a clean slate by moving to another location, you're wrong...because guess what, you're still you.

3. Happiness is a state of mind; you can only be happy if you really want to be. No one is responsible for your happiness, you are. Self-limiting beliefs are common among unhappy people.

4. When you don't care what others think, you have true freedom. Eat what and where you want, wear what you want, talk to whoever you want, express yourself however you want, just own every aspect of yourself. No one can tell you what you can and can't do...unless you're harming others of course. When you're comfortable in your own skin, you reap the rewards.

5. Personal goals can always change...what you thought you wanted a few years ago can be completely unattractive to you in  the present. Always keep an open mind and adapt as necessary.

I hope I've become older and wiser over the course of the past year...because at 27 I'm starting to feel like an old fogey. I'm at the point where you're beginning to become out of touch with what's cool...since all your friends/co-workers are in serious relationships or married with kids, and it's weird to hang out with college age kids at your age since you'd be that guy. It doesn't help that I work in IT...the COOLEST field.

Anyways, I'm going back to the US on Oct 14th for two weeks! I can't will be good to see family and friends, and to eat food I haven't had in forever...


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