Sunday, August 21, 2011

Aspirations


I was cruising reddit as usual and came across this picture that rings true on so many levels...though a bit exaggerated.


This serves as a reminder on how life can go on several different paths, and it's been compounded since my 10 year high school reunion was announced recently through a private Facebook group. I've been lurking in the group and it's pretty interesting seeing how some people's lives have panned out. From the people labelled as the popular kids, the nerds, jocks, and what have you to the adults they are today. At first glance you can see some people haven't changed at all, others are doing pretty amazing things, several peaked too early, and with some you wonder who the heck they are. It just gives you another opportunity to reflect on your own life.

I hate being compared with others (Asian parents are pro at this) unless it's my own doing from an objective standpoint. This isn't something I do often since I'm a relatively confident guy (not always the case;) I've been through enough to know I don't really care what other people think about me, because in the end it's my opinion of myself that really matters. On a side note...as I've grown older I'm beginning to think the reason parents want their children to initially succeed is to brag to other parents. It's a status symbol and another effect of "Keeping up with the Joneses"...like showing off your new car or new iPad or whatever. "My kid is smarter and faster...your kid is a POS and you can't upgrade!" It explains all those stupid bumper stickers about kids being in honor roll programs or whatever.


Back to the picture.

Where does that leave you when your life isn't reflected in the picture on the left or right?

Don't get me wrong, I'm not against drinking and I like to go out, grab a drink and have a good time...but I'm resigned to the fact that my body has not developed a tolerance for alcohol and never will (thanks Dad.) These social settings aren't always conducive to having a good time for me either, since the drinking age here is 18...so depending on where you go you can end up feeling like an old man. I'm also past the age where I drink just to get shitfaced and forget my troubles (I don't really have any troubles,) and I'd much rather have a meaningful conversation than a night pounding drinks, spending wads of cash, shouting/hearing "Woo, this is my song!" and chasing tail. Although I do enjoy club music and dancing...it's a catch-22...but in the end I don't think I'm missing out on too much.

Oh hey I'm glowing

On the other hand with the obvious, I am not in a committed relationship and don't have any babies running around.

What I do have going for me is that I know what I want to do with my life; I'm in that whole self-actualisation mode in Maslow's Heiarchy of Needs, and I'm way past the Quarter Life Crisis stage that so many people I know are going through right now. My plan is to accomplish most of the things on my bucket list while I'm young and capable...and settling down (e.g. kids) when that happens. Who's to say you'll live to 65? Who's to say you'll get to retire? Do things now when you can =)


Two things I don't want to be as a dad:

1. I don't want to be an old dad...one that doesn't have the energy to play with their kid when they're growing up or whatever.
2. I don't want to be an absentee dad...I want to be able to impart the life lessons I've learned to best prepare them for their journey through the world.

Two things I want to do as a dad:

1. Name my son Kit..
2. Name my daughter Bit...
3. Make sure the mother of my children is fine with all this...

(Is it weird I think of this stuff?)

My self-imposed deadline to "settle down" is 2014, after I attend the World Cup in Brazil. By then I'll be 30 years old, will have been on all 7 continents and travelled the world, been to several world famous festivals, obtained 3 passports, been to all the 7 wonders of the world, will have done some sick scuba diving, will be earning 6 figures, will have a hefty amount saved up, and will hopefully have learned another language on a fluent level.


All of this is going to happen, trust me...it's my 4 year plan.

As for my 4 month plan for the rest of the year, there's nothing fancy:

1. Lose 7 pounds (I've lost 5 since I joined the gym 4 months ago...well short of my goal)
2. Go see the Pacific Northwest in America
3. Get my Advanced Scuba Certification
4. Scuba dive in Fiji/Indonesia/Malaysia (one of them) or do a Great White Shark dive in South Australia.

More work to do



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