Monday, May 23, 2011

Passion Pit

About a year ago my friend Wil sent me an article that put the wheels in motion that got me to where I am today. Through the latter part of 2009 and the first half of 2010, I had this feeling of discontent with my life. I was for lack of a better word, unhappy. My job was okay; it wasn't something I got up every day thinking "Hell yes, I want to do this for the next 10 years of my life!" I made friends, it paid the bills, and I was learning...but something was missing.  Life felt stagnant.

I've never had much of an issue making friends but I was kind of lonely (not why I made changes), mainly because DC is a VERY transient city. For example, I went through two separate groups of friends during my time there. People usually go to DC to get experience in a government job for a year or two and then head off to a master's or PhD program. It can be quite tiring making new friends every year or so. I also had a few relationships that were very good learning experiences...I made many mistakes and hope I don't repeat them. I even re-examined my relationship with God during this time. Nothing helped me get rid of this feeling, until I read this article:

How to Get From a 7 to a 10

If you can relate on any level and you have the time, it's well worth a read.


So I have this theory that there are 3 types of people in this world:

1. Passionate people - These people know what their one life goal or purpose is, and they're exceptionally good at it. They're the ones that knew they wanted to be a doctor when they were a kid, or an engineer, or a musician, or an artist, or a chef, and so on. The desire and drive to do what they want is just ingrained in their DNA. These are the kids cooking at 10 years old, drawing amazing pictures at 6, coding programs at 12, writing music at 9, designing buildings at 15, and so on. I'm sure you know a few of these people, and there is no doubt they'll succeed in their endeavors.

Passionate Steve Irwin

2. Semi-passionate people - These people are the jack-of-all-trades type people. They have several interests over a wide variety of areas that they're better than average in, but by no means are experts in. These people are multi-talented, and that's because they're still trying to find their one passion. They're generally very open to new ideas because they want to find their passion in order to dedicate their time to it. This means having a go at every new thing and spending enough time to be good at it, and then deciding if it's their passion. In general, the answer is they continue searching. I fall within this group.

What am I doing...

3. Dispassionate people - (Sounds worse than it is.) These people just take life for what it is: a fun ride. They don't have a passion and they don't really care that they don't. They're perfectly content with how their life is. These people enjoy spending time with their partners, friends, family and their hobbies, and that's enough for them. It doesn't bother them that they don't have a passion to worry about. Ignorance is definitely bliss in these cases.

Good state of mind

I realize I'm generalizing by lumping everyone into 3 groups, but for the sake of simplicity please roll with it.

Being in the 1st group sounds like it'd be awesome; no worries about wondering what to do with your just KNOW. Then you do it. No time lost, just hit the ground running and seemingly love every minute of it.


Being in the 2nd group kind of feel like there's something you should be really good at so you spend a lot of time searching for that one thing. However, the benefit of this is over the course of searching for that one thing you become interesting, just because you've tried so many different things and have knowledge about a wide variety of topics. I've come to the conclusion that my one passion is searching for my passion. It's so meta...

Just treading water

At face value, the 3rd group seem like it would be kind of a boring existence. In actuality it would probably be quite nice. You wouldn't have to worry about anything except enjoying life. If you like something, you like it. If you don't, you don't. You don't have to worry about finding that one thing that would make your life "better." You just enjoy things as is. Let's play football, let's grab a drink, let's go shopping, and so on. No worries...

As time has progressed, I've slowly started migrating into the 3rd group. I'm just enjoying life, doing what I enjoy doing (traveling and eating) and making the best of my time here on Earth. It's not a big deal if don't have that one passion, so as long as I enjoy the ride.

When I was in DC, I would have rated my life as a 4. Since I've moved to Sydney, it's now an 8.5. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. You have to take risks to get any sort of return.

If you can relate, get a move on...


At May 23, 2011 at 10:25 AM , Blogger Amy said...

wil is like yoda.


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