Tuesday, April 05, 2011

Young Blood

I've had a bout of writer's block lately...I haven't been inspired to write about anything in particular that doesn't reiterate topics I've covered already. I suppose the only way to get out of it is to continue writing, so here goes nothing.

Brief update on things I've done the past two weeks:

-Became a huge fan of The Naked and Young and bought their album (I never buy music. They're touring the US right now so GO!)
-Watched Seasons 1 and 2 of Community (my new favorite TV comedy...seriously good.)
-Watched Seasons 1, 2, and 3 of Breaking Bad (my new favorite TV drama...absolutely amazing.)
-Started teaching myself French with Rosetta Stone
-Booked a trip to Singapore and Vietnam for the end of April
-Signed up for the best gym I've ever seen...Virgin Active
-Showed some old friends from TAF/Michigan around Sydney

I have a little too much free time...

Have you ever taken a personality test? In particular, the Myers-Brigg Type Indicator? If you haven't, I highly recommend it...it's not the end all be all of telling you the type of person you are, but it does give you some insight so you can judge for yourself. I take this test every few months or so to see if my personality changes or if it's static...and for the most part it's been static at ENTJ. This hasn't always been the case.

Which one of you is Quagmire?

Personality is a funny thing. Unlike your physical attributes, which outside of cosmetic surgery and weight gain/loss remains static...personality is malleable. While you may be characterized as an introvert or extrovert, this is something you can change with your mind and some willpower. If you're normally talkative and upbeat, you can easily become morose and quiet. If you're normally shy and reserved, you can become gregarious and charming with a moment's notice. Sure it might take some work and it might initially feel unnatural or awkward, but it's something completely under your control, unlike your physical characteristics. As with anything else, it also takes practice before it becomes second nature. If you're boring, you can become interesting. If you're socially awkward, you can become...normal (for the most part...?)

Introvert + Extrovert

There seems to be a stereotype that all introverts are shy and extroverts are outgoing, but this is not so. Though I seem to be classified as an ENTJ I consider myself an outgoing introvert, though I was a shy introvert in the past. Just as much, I know several shy extroverts. To put it in layman's terms, introverts enjoy people's company but need to "recharge" alone afterwards while extroverts get energized by being around people and dislike being alone. You're probably a shy extrovert if you don't talk much but still like going out with friends and meeting people. You're probably an outgoing introvert if can strike up a conversation with anyone but dislike small talk. You can see where introverts can be confused as shy when they really just want their "me" time.

Shy Guy

I remember when I used to be so shy that I couldn't look people in the eye. That whole, look someone in the eye, they look back, you glance away and look elsewhere or pretend you were doing something else? I was a pro at that...that and asking for help at a store. Here's someone who's paid to help you, and I wouldn't speak to them because I was so shy. In hindsight, I'm not quite sure how I made it through school. It's a stark contrast from today.

Now, people I meet make all these assumptions about me...like I'm a huge partier. From an objective standpoint I suppose it makes sense; my ears are pierced (I no longer rock ice,) I have several tattoos, I was in a fraternity, and I take care of my appearance. Does this happen to anyone else? Are you a walking oxymoron? Do you get unfairly judged because of assumptions?

That's My Name

When I tell people I can't drink much/cheap date they don't believe me and think I'm lying. "It just takes practice" they say. I was in a fraternity, I'm pretty sure I practiced...I also know my body better than anyone else. Another one that hasn't happened in a long time (since I've been a hermit and haven't been meeting new people) is when someone says "I know about people like you. You're a player." What? Because I'm friendly? I'll have you know I'm a huge nerd. The best course of action is to respond by saying "Yeah...you got me! I'm a player...I play sports, monopoly, videogames, a whole bunch of stuff..."

Anyways, It's getting late and I'm not sure where I'm going with this post since it's all over the place. I guess my point is don't judge, unless you like being judged. Wow, how did I go from talking about personality to judging others? The transition could have been WAY smoother...but I digress. You don't know what someone was like 5 years ago, 1 year ago, 1 month ago, whatever...just accept people as they are and by how you experience them yourself. Everyone changes, but only if they choose to themselves of course.


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