Sunday, November 21, 2010

Good Night and Good Luck

I've been on a roll.

I'm not a very superstitious person, but ever since I received my fortune at Asakusa in Japan and picked up a charm at the temple everything has been going my way, and I keep the charm on me at all times.


The process to pay your respects and obtain your fortune is this:

1. Rub incense smoke onto your body/head
2. Clean your hands with water by the fountain
3. Walk into the temple and pay your respects/make a wish
4. Donate money to the fortune kiosk
5. Shake a container containing sticks with numbers on them
6. Pull out a stick, read the number you obtained
7. Pull out the drawer with the corresponding number and pick up your fortune
8. Read fortune, and pick up a charm if the fortune is good luck


Here's what my fortune said:


When spring comes, willows are in bud. Just like flowers bloom on old branches, something happy will come. There is still frost and snow, but brilliant happiness is in it. Your fortune is always good, never destroyed.

*Your wishes will be realized. *A sick person will recover. *The lost article will be found. *The person you are waiting will come but late. *Building a new house and removal are good. *Making a trip has no problem. *Marriage and employment are all good."

Is that not the greatest fortune you could ever get? My wishes have been realized, my trip to Australia had no problem, and employment is good...can't speak for marriage though =P

Speaking of marriage, it seems I've hit the age where my friends are starting to tie the knot. I'm happy for them, truly I am. It's an enormous leap for anyone, to say that you'll be with your spouse for better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, through good times and bad, and til death do you part. To have that amount of commitment to someone and to be completely certain of it is very admirable, and I wish them all the best.


I think a lot of people don't know what they're getting themselves into when they decide to get married to someone, which is why the divorce rate is ridiculously high (50% in America, 40% in Australia.) Isn't that upsetting? 1 out of 2 marriages ends up in divorce? I don't know what's going on in these relationships, but something is definitely wrong if the divorce rate is that high.


I don't believe in "The One," I'm too rational for that...but that doesn't mean I'm not a closet romantic. Gifts just because, surprise trips to new places, taking mental notes to reference for the future to take a girl someplace/get her something, random days of pampering, inside jokes and so on...I'm all about that. Unfortunately that's something 18 year old me is more apt to do than 26 year old me. Maybe I'm bitter or maybe I'm more guarded now? It happens as time goes by and your relationships keep failing for one reason or another. I guess the only thing you can do is learn from your mistakes and continue to put yourself out there? I don't know what it is exactly, but what I do know is it'll take a lot for that side of me to come back again.

I think the biggest reasons why relationships fail is that people don't know what they want, people change, and people get comfortable easily. Some people get into relationships because that's what they think they should be doing, some people date someone else just because that person was the first person that showed interest in them, some people know they shouldn't date someone but do it anyways and then stay in the relationship because they're afraid of confrontation and so on. I have a pretty good idea of what I want right now, and marriage is not in the picture for another 3 years minimum.

He's cool and all, but he's not The One for me.

When I decide to marry a woman, I want to be absolutely sure she is who I want to be with for the rest of my life. That's what being single is all about, finding out who/what you like and don't like and making mistakes along the way. You can take risks, date someone you normally wouldn't date, do something/go somewhere random that tickles your fancy without worrying about the consequences, and most importantly, find out more about yourself. Once you figure out who you are, what you want out of life, and feel content, that is the best state to be in to dive into a relationship and eventually, if that's what you want, to get married.

I'm pretty jealous my friends getting married have reached this point way before I have...but life's a journey right?

Keep on truckin'....


At December 18, 2010 at 8:23 AM , Blogger karentl said...

divorce rate for first-time marriages is more like 40%.. but second-time marriages is 60% and so on. i think it's more that the repeat offenders are skewing the numbers and giving marriage a bad name :T

i think the most important thing is to not close yourself off to the possibility of meeting someone who is right for you at the right time and place - despite all the baggage from the wrong ones before. and i try not to judge other people's relationships because whether or not someone is in a relationship or is married doesn't necessarily correlate with if they are actually a happy and well-balanced person because people use people for their own good or bad devices, just like everything else in life i suppose.


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